It’s amazing how many men and women ensure rejection by their choice of behaviours on a first date. Here are some dating turn-offs to avoid :

FOR WOMEN

* stop talking about personal or work problems » stop criticising ex-boyfriends or husbands

* don’t appear too keen

* don’t tell him you could fall in love with him

• don’t discuss marriage and your dreams about the wedding day

* don’t tell your life story

* don’t be too secretive

• resist wearing heavy perfume and make-up

• resist freshening up your lipstick and make-up in front of him

• stop yourself asking too many questions about his finances

* don’t have so much skin and cleavage exposed that you obviously think your sex appeal is your greatest asset

* don’t aim to have sex on the first date

For Men

• don’t talk about or criticise previous girlfriends or wives « stop trying to control the occasion

• stop talking about yourself too much

* resist name dropping and talking about your possessions

* don’t dress in an out-of-date way or inappropriately

* don’t be poorly groomed

• resist being distracted by every attractive woman passing by « resist becoming too familiar

* don’t drink too much alcohol

• don’t expect sex on the first date

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